The 6 Mistakes Not to Make with Casual Online Dating

Casual dating is the perfect way to meet new people and spend exciting nights every week without the strings and commitment that come with a long-term relationship. And with the many top-quality casual dating sites out there, there’s something for everyone!

But there are also many common mistakes that newbies make when casual dating online. We looked at the biggest ones for you so that you know what to avoid to make the best of online casual dating.

Copy-Pasting Messages

Texting is the number 1 way to get someone’s attention and find out if your match is into the same things as you before meeting. And if texting is great, sexting is even better.

By all means, don’t be shy: let your personality shine through, explore fantasies together, and get a feel for how much you may like each other.

However, one of the top mistakes made on casual dating sites is using the same icebreakers over and over again. They may sound fun and catchy the first time you read (or write) them, but if you’ve read them before, your match probably has too.

Hookups and dating sites are crowded places and things move fast. Chances are that your match has been texting there before — many times. You risk sounding boring and unoriginal and they will quickly move on.

Coming up with a new line or better yet, referring to something in their profile that caught your attention have a much higher success rate.

Not Being Clear with Your Partner Beforehand

And since we’re talking about communications, be clear from the beginning. Are you married or strictly after one night stands? Are you looking for a partner to go to swing clubs with? Do you have specific desires you wish to satisfy?

It’s a big pool out there and we’re sure you’ll find the right matches to dive with. But save both some time and make sure that you’re on the same page before spending hours texting and wasting a date only to find out that you’re not compatible.

No harsh feelings will emerge — if you make a point to always be respectful, people will appreciate your honesty and simply find someone else.

Forgetting Lingerie

Gentlemen, don’t skip this one! Foreplay is not only a must but also one of the best tools at your disposal for an incredible night.

It’s hard to feel special as you’re casual dating. But that extra care in choosing sexy garments (and maybe a few discrete toys to bring with you) will make you stand out from the crowd and get things hot fast.

And if you and your match are up for it, why not share some lingerie pictures between your encounters? Just make sure to protect your privacy and leave your face and recognizable marks out.

Lingerie really takes little effort but goes a long way in terms of teasing and spicing your date up.

Forgetting Condoms

You know it, we know it, everyone knows it: protection is key. Fun stops being fun when you have to deal with compromised health afterward. Only going to clean hotels and top-quality clubs surely helps but there is simply no protection like condoms.

Unwanted pregnancies and STDs … you know the drill. It’s not worth risking long-term consequences for a one night stand. So do yourself a favor and don’t put yourself in the situation of having to choose between taking risks and having to miss out on the fun.

Bring condoms with you at all times, no matter your gender. And if your partner asks you not to use them, gently but clearly refuse. If they insist, you can call it a night.

Underestimating Pictures

You may have heard this advice before: don’t be too picky or you may miss out on meeting fantastic people and have the time of your life. At the same time, we all know that competition can be ruthless on casual dating sites.

Without a curated photo gallery, your chances of scoring a match are near-zero. Don’t run to the closest professional photographer nor hire an expensive sports car just yer, though. Phony pictures are a no-no as much as blurred ones.

These are the rules for a top-notch photo gallery: Don’t use outdated pictures. That golden beach body captured on camera during your gap year overseas 10 years ago may make you proud, but you want to be up to his/her expectations when you meet them in person. You should be the only one in the picture. We get it: you want to show that you have friends to socialize with and you’re not a weirdo. But the focus should be on you and yourself only, don’t let your matches be distracted by other people. Include a photo that shows your interests: you may be traveling, doing sports, or spending time with animals. It will give your gallery a personal touch and your personality will pop. Make sure to upload at least one close-up of your face and upper body. Again, the gallery should be all about you. No sunglasses or hats: there’s nothing like a good, intense look into your eyes.

Not Letting Yourself Go and Explore New Things

Now, you’ve set up a great profile. You’ve caught someone’s attention. You’ve been flirting online and decided to try things IRL. You start talking about where and when to meet, and what you’d like to do.

But then, they suggest something that’s out of your good old comfort zone. Maybe it’s a new date scenario, something different from your usual drinks & dinner. Maybe you’ve already started your date and things are moving pretty fast, with your match suggesting to take things to the next level there and then. And maybe, they are suggesting something new in the bedroom.

As long as you feel safe and comfortable, there’s no reason why you should say no to new experiences. Let yourself go, you may be discovering your new obsession. After all, casual dating is made to explore, enjoy, and meet with no string nor judgement attached.

Your inhibitions may hold you back from making the best of your night. Often, they come from your own insecurities: don’t try to impress your temporary partner at all costs. They will have more fun if they see that you are relaxed and they’ll hardly judge you. They are there for your same reasons: spending some lovely and exciting time with you (and maybe others!).